January 23, 2010

Bad day for Daddy and LP

One of Little Prince's greatest fears came true today - he fell into the toilet! He has been afraid of falling into the toilet for some time. Most of the time he goes to the bathroom by himself but sometimes he asks us to help him/hold him so he doesn't fall in. Today he did fall in and then my sweet DH tried to tell him he was too big to fall in (too big to go down into the toilet) but Little Prince didn't believe him so DH held him and carefully lowered him down into the toilet. Well, that back fired! Little Prince started crying and now he won't use that toilet. DH told me that he carried his little stool across the house and used our bathroom in our room. Poor little guy. We will have to get him over that fear, I don't want him using our bathroom!

As you may know, DH works all Thursday night, then comes home so I can go to work and then stays up with the kids until I get home Friday evening. I don't know how he does it or how much longer he can do it. He calls me a couple times a day just to talk to me. This afternoon he called to tell me he was having a trying day. LP was upstairs crying so DH asked him what was wrong (from the bottom of the stairs), LP answered "I poopy'd". DH told him "that's OK, I will be up in a minute to wipe you". Well, when he got up there, LP had a case of diarrhea. It was all over the floor, down his legs, all over the toilet and he was standing there saying "I sorry Daddy, I sorry Daddy". Another "poor little guy". Daddy told him it was OK and that accidents happen. DH said it took him a while to get it all cleaned up and then he put LP in a "warm" shower.

I wish I was home. Actually, I received a text message from DH early this morning saying that he wishes our house would sell so we could pay off some bills and then I could quit working. We do miss each other. We don't have a day off together anymore and that's harder than we thought it would be. We thought we would have the evenings together but what we didn't think about is it wouldn't be just him and I. It really changed when we received the babies.

I learned two days ago that bio-mom is thinking about give up custody of her kids. There is a couple north of us who would like to adopt the twins and their sister would stay within the her family. I hope it's as easy as that but I have a feeling that terminating parental rights (TPR) is going to be a long, drawn out process. From what I understand, the man named on the birth certificate is not the father and the actual father lives outside the country. Fun, Fun. Oh, another thing; bio-mom wants me to text her every few days to let her know how the babies are but she hasn't even kept in contact with the case worker. If she is so concerned about the babies then why doesn't she ask the case worker to contact me? I don't want her to have my cell number so I called our cell company to find out how to block my number. They informed me that there was no way to do that but that I could block it when I made a call. I let the caseworker know what the cell company said and now he wants me to call her every few days to let her know how her kids are!


  1. You are not obligated to have contact with birth parents and your placement is probably confidential. I always try to have good relationships with birthparents, but I draw some lines. If a birth parent is showing up for visits and the case worker says that they are following court orders, I may give out my cell phone with rules for when they can call.

    Hope LP gets over his toilet fear soon. My daughter was really tiny when she was little and she was afraid of the toilet. I bought one of those Fisher Price toilet seats that fit on the toilet and it had handles which really helped her.


  2. Wow, you have got you hands full. I would not talk to Bio-mom with out going threw the social worker, she sounds like a hand full.